Love is a desire sought upon by most people. To meet and be with your future sweetheart is such a delight to think about and yearn for. Yet it can be difficult (if not impossible) to find that special someone. So why is that? Here is 3 reasons that may help explain why you can’t get a girlfriend.
Perhaps you judge a woman by their looks. Maybe you don’t listen to their words. Or you’re obsessed about presenting yourself as better than it really is. Women are people too, and people like to be treated with respect. Dating is a mutual exchange; it’s not like talking with an escort or a salesclerk. If one side feels left out or disregarded, then of course it’s not going to work out. Take the time to know who they are as their own person. Respect begets respect, so as much as possible, give them the energy that you would also want to receive for yourself.
It can be hard to put yourself out there; the prospect of finding “the one” can be intimidating and anxiety-inducing at that. You might be shy, self-deprecating, or lack confidence. But it has to be understood: there’s nothing more appealing than a person who’s comfortable with who they are and isn’t trying to be something they’re not. Don’t let yourself get escorted out of the game; think positively about yourself. There’s always going to be that someone who will genuinely love you for you.
Romance is no fairytale come true; love is no smooth sailing ship. We are not infallible; each of us are flawed in some way, and we should expect bumps alongside the road. Relationships are about adjusting course as you go. Nevertheless, perhaps you don’t see it that way – as soon as they do or say something you don’t like, you lose interest. The problem then is that you’re hoping to date the ideal woman who lives to perfectly match with you, with no needs or standards of her own. She’s the one you can never find, but will spend the rest of your life yearning for – because she’s not real. Don’t judge a book by its cover; just because you know that she is an escort does not make her less than a woman worthy of love.
Face it: if you’re not willing to make the effort to adjust yourself, then why should your date do all the work to make the romance land? You and that girl are not going to see eye-to-eye at first, and that’s OK! Spend the first few times getting to know their personality, their likes and dislikes, their dreams, while they’re getting to know yours.
It’s not easy to accept getting rejected by the girl you fancy. Sometimes, it can seem like the world deliberately doesn’t want you to end up with someone, anyone. However, perhaps, it’s not the universe that’s at fault, but rather it’s you. Try to ask yourself, “Are any of the reasons here applicable to me?” If so, then perhaps you should take the time to change for the better. You’ll find a girlfriend. I’m sure of it.